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by Monique Darnell (Author)
If you've ever found yourself loving harder than you were ever loved back, this book is for you.
Build-A-BAE-R isn't about how to get a man or mold the perfect partner.
It's about the woman behind the blueprint-the one who keeps building from broken pieces, hoping love will stay if she sacrifices enough. This book is a journey back to you.
Monique writes from the raw places she once lived: a high-achieving woman silently begging to be chosen, a nurturer trying to prove she was enough, a loyal heart bleeding behind a smile. But no more. This is a story of awakening. A story of self-abandonment turned self-possession.
Through personal reflection, cultural critique, and deep spiritual truth, she exposes the trauma patterns that shape our relationship choices and gently guides us toward the love we deserve.
This is not a dating manual. It is a reclamation.
Written for the woman who's tired of being "Barbara the Builder," this book is a call to rebuild-not a man, but your own foundation.
It challenges the old narratives: that loyalty means pain, that aging without a partner is shameful, that productivity equals worth. With compassion and clarity, Monique invites you to choose wholeness over hustle, softness over struggle, and truth over trauma bonding
You don't have to shrink to be loved. You don't have to be anyone else to be seen. You don't have to earn what was divinely yours from the
beginning.
Build-A-BAE-R is for the woman who dares to stop settling, start healing, and finally become the love she's been waiting for.
