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by Alice Tong (Author)
Is love even worth it? Why do people try to find love just to get devastating heartaches? If these are the questions you're asking after a breakup, read on... Something clicked one day just before I decided to write this book. I was obsessing over the fact that my ex had not been online for almost two days (yes, I online-stalked), and I was anxious because I thought I would never see him again-even online. I was saying to my friends that I wanted to give up because this was too hard; I wanted to give up on my hope of being with anyone then and in the future. I wanted to stop having a relationship with anyone because it had brought so much unnecessary pain into my life. I got mad at myself, and I thought, this obsession is a waste of time. And that was when I had an epiphany -THIS OBSESSION WAS A WASTE OF TIME This is going to be a bit of a strange book because I wrote it as I was experiencing a break up. This is meant to be a self-discovery and self-recovery journey (hopefully) for those who think they have loved someone so much that it hurts. It is for those who have had their hearts broken because they have loved too much. It is for those who are trying to pick themselves up and have the courage to move on. It is also for those who are suffering because they have been so obsessed and consumed by love that they forgot to love themselves. Make no mistake: I'm not saying that we should all stop loving everyone and everything entirely and become a stoic (I do talk a bit about stoicism in the book) or live like a hermit for the rest of our lives. That is not the purpose of this book. What I'm trying to say is that instead of seeking love from outside, we should be looking within. It is about how we can love without needing love or needing to love. We can love without needing love or needing to love.
