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by Margalis Fjelstad (Author)
STOP BEING A DOORMAT FOR THE BORDERLINE OR NARCISSIST: Rebuilding Your Identity and Self-Respect
- Have you been caretaking a borderline or narcissistic family member for years?
- Have you been in more than one relationship with a BP/NP?
- Do you feel like you have lost your sense of identity and control over your life?
- Are you chronically depressed, anxious, exhausted, and hopeless about this relationship ever getting any better?
Caretaking the borderline or narcissist is not just a habit or role you took on for a while, it can become a lifestyle that is difficult to change. Caretaking a (BP/NP) means you are always the one giving, while they are demanding, unappreciative, and critical in return. It pushes you into focusing all your attention and energy into continually pleasing, placating, and soothing their emotional demands. Your thinking gets distorted, you feel constantly anxious, you lose your self-confidence, and your physical and emotional health deteriorate. You become a hostage or a martyr to a BP/NP. You feel like an emotional doormat.
- Identify the factors that led you into the caretaker role.
- Break out of the caretaker mindset.
- Stop falling for the BP/NP's twisted logic.
- Break your obsession with trying to understand and fix the BP/NP.
- Learn how to stop being manipulated into caretaking them.
Dr. Fjelstad uses case studies, offers techniques, and shows you new ways to confront conflict with the BP/NP, set effective boundaries and limits, increase your self-confidence, create the power to control your life, and to even walk away.
About the Author:
Margalis Fjelstad, Ph.D., LMFT Ret., has been a therapist and university professor for over forty years, training students to become marriage and family therapists. She taught at California State University Sacramento and Regis University and was a Certified MFT Intern Supervisor. She was also the founder and Director for Threshold Educational and Counseling Services. Dr. Fjelstad has presented professional trainings about the dynamics of families with a borderline or narcissistic member across the United States and Australia. Her books are read by caretakers around the world and include the following: Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist, Healing From a Narcissistic Relationship, Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent and Stop Being A Doormat for the Borderline or Narcissist. To contact Dr. Fjelstad, please visit her website: www.margalistherapy.com
