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by Lia Tucker (Author)
Does Any of This Sound Familiar?
Your RSD fires at the smallest perceived criticism and suddenly you're convinced everyone hates you.
Your relationships struggle because your partner doesn't understand why you shut down or explode over "small things."
You mask so hard that you're exhausted by noon, but letting the mask slip feels terrifying.
You're told to "just focus" or "calm down" by people who have no idea how your nervous system actually works.
I get it. You've tried therapy. You've read the DBT workbooks. They told you these skills work for everyone.
What's inside:- Why standard DBT fails ADHD and autistic brains (and the exact modifications that actually work)
- The 8 senses you're processing (not 5) and why ignoring three of them keeps you dysregulated
- How to regulate sensory input BEFORE emotional regulation (the foundation everyone skips)
- Why "willingness vs. willfulness" gaslights demand avoidance and what to use instead
- The RSD reality-check system that separates actual rejection from your brain's threat response
- Time blindness strategies that work with your neurology, not against it
- Communication scripts for when your brain goes offline and you can't form words
- Executive function hacks for task initiation paralysis, decision freeze, and working memory failure
- How to explain your needs without over-justifying or apologizing for your neurology
- Alexithymia-friendly emotion identification when "name your feelings" makes no sense
- Why masking is killing you and how to reduce it without feeling exposed
- Meltdown vs. shutdown differences and what to do during each
Regulation is possible. Relationships can work. You just need the right tools.
