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by Brett Holloway (Author)
Loving a child is instinct. Surviving the child you love is something else entirely.
When Brett and Shane opened their home to a child who had already survived more than most adults ever will, they believed love, structure, and stability could heal what the world had broken. They had read the literature. They had completed the training. They had asked the hard questions. They knew this would be difficult.
They did not know what difficult actually meant.
What the House Holds is a memoir about parenting on the edge of violence, navigating severe mental illness inside a home, and the impossible tension between protecting your family and loving a child you cannot save. Written by an adoptive parent with clinical insight and years of contemporaneous documentation, this book follows one family through the daily reality of raising a daughter with Reactive Attachment Disorder, dissociative features, schizoaffective disorder, and a history of severe early childhood trauma - through false allegations, psychiatric hospitalizations, insurance denials, failed supports, and the kind of exhaustion that does not feel like tiredness.
What the House Holds is also a document of institutional failure - of a child welfare system that placed a child without full disclosure, of psychiatric hospitals that stabilized and discharged on a revolving door, of insurance companies that denied hospitalizations as not medically necessary, of schools and law enforcement and courts that could do very little against a child who had already mapped the limits of every available consequence. The book's closing section is a series of open letters - to her doctors, her therapists, her evaluators, the psychiatric hospitals, the insurance companies, the Department of Human Services, Congress, the police, and the schools - written in the plain language of someone who has spent years communicating through official channels and been failed by all of them.
This is not a book about giving up. It is a book about what love actually costs - and what a family does when every system meant to help has failed.
If you are a parent living what this book describes, it was written for you first. You are not crazy. You are not failing. You are not alone. What is happening in your house is real, and the reason no one believes you is the same reason the author had to start documenting everything: because some things are only credible when there is no other explanation left.
